Gender-based violence (GBV) remains a widespread and deeply troubling issue in South Africa, with its effects felt in countless homes across the country. While physical and emotional abuse often takes centre stage in discussions, there is another form of abuse that is just as destructive – financial abuse.
According to Jessica Pillay, financial adviser at Momentum Financial Planning, this form of abuse is often hidden in plain sight, but its impact can be devastating, leaving victims financially trapped and emotionally drained.
According to the 2022/23 Victims of Crime Survey by Statistics SA, a significant proportion of women have experienced various forms of gender-based violence, including physical and sexual violence. What often goes unnoticed, however, is that financial abuse is present in the overwhelming majority of domestic violence cases, with many victims enduring severe economic control by their abusers.
“Financial abuse involves using money as a weapon to control, manipulate, and undermine a partner’s independence, often leaving them dependent and voiceless,” says Pillay.
The statistics speak for themselves: 21% of South African women report having experienced physical or sexual violence in their lifetime, and more than half of these cases involve financial abuse.
Stats SA (2022) reports that economic violence is a significant part of the broader GBV epidemic, with many women trapped in abusive situations because of their lack of financial independence.
More than 50% of women in abusive relationships report being subjected to some form of financial control or economic violence.
As South Africa reflects on the 16 Days of Activism (held from 25 November to 10 December every year) against gender-based violence, Pillay says it is essential for women – particularly those in abusive situations – to understand what financial abuse looks like and to ask themselves: do I have a financial voice, or am I constantly silenced?
Signs you might be in a financially abusive relationship
Restriction of economic activity
Financial abusers often try to limit your ability to work, pursue a career, or study, effectively cutting off your access to financial independence. By keeping you financially dependent, they maintain control over you.
Restricting access to healthcare
A controlling partner may prevent you from seeking medical care or deliberately make it difficult for you to access healthcare services, putting your well-being at risk.
Micromanaging spending
In a healthy relationship, both partners should be able to make spending decisions without constant scrutiny. If you find yourself having to explain every small expense, or if your partner monitors your spending excessively, this is a clear sign of financial control.
Deliberate damage to your credit
Financial abusers may ruin your credit score by either mismanaging shared debts or sabotaging your financial stability. This leaves you unable to access loans, rent an apartment, or make major purchases on your own.
Complete control over finances
Some victims are forced to hand over all their income to their abuser, who then controls how the money is spent. This fosters total financial dependence, making it almost impossible for the victim to break free.
Hiding assets during divorce or maintenance
During divorce or maintenance negotiations, some abusers hide their true financial situation, particularly when the woman has been a homemaker or full-time mother. The common assumption that “she didn’t work for a cent” is not only false but devalues the important contribution that caregiving and managing a household make to the family. These hidden assets can severely affect a woman’s financial future.
How to break free from financial abuse
These are just a few examples of how financial abuse can play out, but the impact is far-reaching. Pillay says it’s important to recognise the signs so that you can take action to protect yourself.
“Strength doesn’t come from the body; it comes from your will. If you decide to take control of your financial life, the solutions are within reach.”
Become financially literate
Learning the basics of money management, understanding your rights, and learning how to budget, save, and invest will give you the tools to regain control over your financial life. Financial literacy can help you identify when you’re being manipulated and provide a foundation for making informed decisions.
Seek professional counselling
Financial abuse often goes hand in hand with emotional and psychological manipulation. Professional counselling can help you to heal from the trauma of abuse and teach you how to set healthy boundaries. Therapy can also help you rebuild your self-esteem and gain the confidence to take control of your financial future.
Consult a financial adviser
A financial adviser can assist you in rebuilding your financial independence. They can offer advice on how to manage debts, save for the future, and take control of your money. Financial advisers can provide practical solutions and help you navigate complex financial situations.
Maintain economic independence
Even if you’re in a relationship, it’s important to maintain your own savings and investment accounts. This ensures that you have financial security and independence, particularly if circumstances change. Having your own financial cushion can give you peace of mind and protect you from unexpected challenges.
Ensure financial compatibility
When making joint financial decisions, it’s important to have open and honest discussions about money. Financial compatibility is crucial in any relationship. If you’re in a partnership, ensure that you both understand each other’s financial goals and values before making joint commitments.
Reach out for help
There are organisations that specialise in supporting victims of abuse, including financial abuse. Organisations such as POWA (People Opposing Women Abuse), SAPS (South African Police Service), and various legal and financial support services are available to offer guidance, legal assistance, and resources for women facing abuse. Don’t hesitate to reach out to these organisations for help.
Pillay says it’s clear that financial abuse is a significant and widespread issue in South Africa – and it’s time to address it head-on.
“By recognising the signs of financial abuse, understanding your rights, and taking steps to protect yourself, you can break free from the cycle of control and build a secure, independent future. It’s time to own your power and your financial life and start shaping a future where you are the one in charge,” she says.
“Together, we can create a society where financial abuse is no longer tolerated, and where every woman has the freedom and power to build her own financially secure future.”
Disclaimer: The views expressed in this article are those of the writer and are not necessarily shared by Moonstone Information Refinery or its sister companies.
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This blog sheds light on financial abuse as a devastating facet of gender-based violence. Thank you for addressing such an important topic with depth and clarity—it’s truly eye-opening and impactful.